Everyone gets their heart broken at some point in life. It’s not a good experience but it’s an experience we have all had to deal with in life. How one chooses to deal with it is what makes or breaks them.
NB.. I am not a relationship coach . I am writing from my perspective and experience.
Here is what you should know about heartbreaks;
It’s just part of life. The people you love most will probably cause you the most pain. The deeper you love someone, the more painful the heartbreak will be.
It shows that you are human and that you have feelings.. Do I need to expound this?
Its Gods/ the universe way of warning or cautioning you. It’s an indicator that you need to take a step back and think twice.
It shapes your destiny. You wouldn’t be where you are now where it not for the heartbreak. You would never have met your awesome spouse had you not been heartbroken by your ex. You wouldn’t be stronger or resilient were it not for that experience that caused your heart to be broken.
It sharpens your mind. You will be able to look out for yourself more in future. You will be able to know red flags when you see them . You become aware.
It shows that you need to start a new chapter in life or end a chapter in life.
You get to know more about yourself in the process,Like how you process negative information, how you choose to react and go about the whole incident.
It enables you to go back to the drawing board and really analyse what you want and how you want to live your life.
You learn that starting all over again or picking up the pieces is a good thing.
It shows that the best is yet to come.
It helps you find solutions to underlying problems.
It helps you to recognise areas in life that you need to change or balance.
You learn to forgive yourself and other people.
You learn to love yourself again.
Having learnt why heartbreaks can be good for you, it’s only fair for me to tell you how to get over it.
Cry. If you need to, cry all you want. It’s okay to cry.
Confide in a friend you trust. Talk to them and let them be there for you as you heal.
Forgive those who wronged you.
Let them go. Holding on to them makes you feel worse.
Take time away from social media. Do not contact your ex at this point. Do not stalk him/ her.
Cut off communication with them. Do not frequent places the both of you loved to go. This allows you time to heal and get over them.
Work out. Go out for a run or jog. Physical activity tends to make you feel better about yourself plus you get in good shape which is a good thing for you.
Spoil yourself. Buy yourself gifts, go out on holiday, prepare a delicious meal for yourself, do a facial,Mani pedi, full body makeover, a massage . Be careful not to overspend.
Hang out with friends who make you laugh.
Read. Books take you to another world and make you realise that the world doesn’t revolve around you.
Do a house makeover. Do a bedroom or a living room make over.
Get involved in charity. Helping those in need helps you feel better about yourself . You realise that there are many people in this world whose life is impacted positively by you through charity . It also helps you use your time wisely instead of feeling sad about what happened to you.
Put away stuff that will remind you of him or her.
Make a vision board. It’s exciting. And you can create whatever your mind perceives.
Encourage yourself. Speak to yourself in front of the mirror. As weired as it sounds, it does work and helps you feel better. Tell yourself. ” I am beautiful, I am strong, I am intelligent, I am worthy, I deserve more,I can do this, I am destined to live a marvellous life”.
Get a hobby. Do something you love doing.
Learn something new. Learn to write a poem or an article, learn a musical instrument, learn a dance move,learn a recipe. There is a lot to learn.
Allow yourself to go through all the emotions. You will feel sad, angry, lonely but it’s okay. It part of the process. Just don’t go back to what broke you.
See a counsellor or phycologists if it helps. It will help you figure things out and also relieve you of the burden.
Take it a day at a time. Time heals all wounds.
You are going to be okay.
I hope this makes sense to you and gives you hope that better days are coming. No one is immune to heartbreak. It’s just part of life.
Do not take your life because of rejection or anything whatsoever. God created you for a purpose so you are worthy.
You were given this burden because you are strong enough to carry it. You will also realise that whatever problem you are facing ,someone else has faced it before and overcame it ,therefore ,you can overcome yours too.
If you are a christian, you may want to be close to God through this time. Praying heals the soul and brings peace and hope. Take it all to the Lord in prayer. Cast all your burdens unto Him.
Sending you love and light.
I pray that you are granted peace, peace that surpacess all human understanding. It is well.
Have a blessed night..